Sex object

News about sexual harassment on women in Thailand have never been absented from pages of newspapers. Everyday at least one has to be shown on a News channel on TV and radio. There are two things I notice from hearing and talking about those news.
First, when a woman encounters with sexual harassment, people tend to feel pity for her, but… at the same time, they think that the woman herself is the cause of the incident. I have also heard a comment from someone I know when News reported that a woman was raped and killed on a footbridge in Bangkok. The person said, “I feel sorry for her, but she’s the one who’s wrong. She shouldn’t have gone out in the middle of the night.” I was surprised to hear that. The commenter noticed, so she added “because going out like that will lure bad men who see her to harm her. She is not careful enough”
One more thing that I notice is… our society set a lot of rules for Thai women on what to do or not to do to shelter themselves but there are almost nothing for men to prevent sexual aggressiveness toward women. It is said that women should dress properly. Women should not let men see parts of their body. Women should not walk alone in the middle of the night, women should be careful and many other “women-should-do”. Whenever women fail to follow the rules, even they have been severely hurt, they are blamed.
The comments I heard and the rules I learnt let me ask myself. Does it mean that men cannot control their sexual desire at all? ….Actually, I don’t think they can’t. I know men are mature enough. I think, the real cause of the problem is not because of men instinct or wrong behave women. It has something to do with the way people think about women.
In my point of view, the way that our society portrays women’s images is one main cause of the problem. Our society treats women as goods. People treat women as weak and inferior. The mass media also create the thought of women as sex objects (everyone is now framed by the media to think of women as sex objects. Even women themselves are not the exceptions.) All of these ideas affect on women’s security.
I think this idea of women as sex objects makes it convenience for some men who are bad enough to take the opportunity to sexually harm women. Very often that I hear them make some excuses by accusing that women use their appearance to lure them. They are likely to say that… as women appearance causes sexual desire, women are the ones to blame because they are not careful enough. I think what they say are so unfair.

Go Inter??!!

Today since english became one of the most important language for people around the world, studying English is very important for every Thai students. Englihsh is not only importnat for Thai students, but also for parents, teachers or even Thai government. The trend of sending their children to study abroad where English is taught as a native language such as USA., or UK. became more more popular. Yes, who else can teach English as the native but the native ones. Students not only can learn how to use and perdorm their English but they also can learn the life skill such as how to take care of themselves when they are far away from their parents and also learn how to sovle their own problems. Although it seems that studying aboard would provide many advantages for both students and their parents, I think, it is not always that good as it should be. When the students have to be alone and far aways from their parents, they could feel lonely and it is, at the same time, hard to find someone to talk to. There might be a lot of friends, but still, friends could lead them to the wrong direction. For parents, It is hard to guide their children since they are far away from each others. Moreover, studying aboard would cost very expensive that not many people could efford it. When I comes to this point and realize that studying aboard could not be that good, I question myself about studying in Thailand in term of  the quality of the curriculum and the quality of the students after graduate. I have to accept that the curriculum of Thai school these days is very good that they can produce many great students who are very good at English, especially some students who graduate from international school or bilingual school. What about the cradibility??? People who graduate from oversea would gain more craditbility than those who study in Thailand. For me, this belief is quite old already. I do not think that people who graduate aboard would always be better than those who graduate in Thailand that, these days, there are a lot of native speakers who teach in Thailand so that Thai students could learn their English as if they are aboard. However, this is just my opinion. How about yours? :)

By..Supharudee Buakaew 520132018